I love traveling, but I know my limits. More than 2 weeks in any one place I start to really miss home. But I’ve never really traveled to some place I’ve wanted to stay longer than 2 weeks and I hope in 2013, I will go to Anncey, France to go to the Fet du Lac. Now I love movies and I’ve realized it’s because it’s such a focus. Distractions now a day are so common it’s not even funny. Which brings me to ever since I was a little boy I always loved being on the water and on a boat, and finally this year I had my famous ‘f*ck it’ moment and purchased a 18′ 2012 Carolina Skiff JVX. I’ve already enjoyed it a half dozen times in two weeks and plan to enjoy it for lots of fishing, camping and cruising. I realized at the ripe age of 32 if I don’t do it now I may never. For 2 years now I’ve been aggressively saving for my retirement plan which is to own a 36′ marlow yacht and cruise the Caribbean with crazy bitches which are hot models. All in all, I’ve realized the level of focus required for certain tasks really changes your experience. So next time you’re really enjoying something notice how much you’re focusing or putting your all into something. It probably means it’s something you need to pursue or do even more.
Since last year I have been reading many books on finances, breakups, relationships, and minimalism. This post is about relationships. It’s about understanding the process of dealing with a breakup properly, understanding people’s needs, and understanding how to have a healthy relationship. All these things are important to having a long lasting and especially satisfying and rich relationship! For those struggling in relationships therapy is not enough!! Read, attend seminars, but therapy is NOT ENOUGH!!
Let’s start with breakups. It doesn’t matter where you are in life. If you haven’t moved on from past relationships, such as you’re bitter about an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend that’s going to damage your current relationship. If you haven’t understood who you are in that relationship and what you did or she/he did then forget your current relationship it won’t last. I’m not saying relive or go back and talk to that person, I mean really try to understand the differences each person had. Understand the characteristics of that other person. Come to grips with it all. I recommend this book for all couples, even if you’re not hung up on past relationships, it’s a great educational tool to understand how to have a healthy break up.
Now for understanding people’s needs, this is key because everyone shows love in one way or another. For example, I enjoy affection, and I need that. I show love by giving you things or providing a service like (washing your car, cleaning something for you, picking something up), actually doing something for you that you don’t have to do. Understanding people’s needs is important. Understanding men like to conquer problems, and woman just need to talk about them are key aspects. Understanding these physiological needs are important. I stumbled across a Tony Robbins program called Love & Passion: The Ultimate Relationship, and it blew my mind! If you watch/listen/read to anything it’s this!!!!
Now having a healthy relationship is the tough part, understanding is fine and dandy but actually acting on your knowledge is the key! It sounds stupid, but do something about it! Find your motivation in anyway you can. Be a man and conquer, be a woman and talk! I’ve read 3 relationship books, Love & Respect, The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriages, and Tony Robbins program called Love & Passion: The Ultimate Relationship that have changed my life. I don’t care what you read, but find something that speaks to you, find something that motivates you, find something that gets you and your partner on the same page. It might not be the same book, but it gets your goals aligned.
I touch on all these aspect briefly cause these are the things that come to mind that help me understand, people and relationships. It may have been too late for me but I hope this changes someone’s life as it has changed my future.
This has been one of the best years of my life. (I know weird, but hear…err read me out).
This year really has been amazing, in the past 5 months I’ve gone on 6 different trips with many amazing friends! Some trips were for work and many others for pleasure. Chicago to see Dave Matthews Band, Houston to visit with best friends I grew up with, Denver to see Dave Matthews & Tim Reynolds, Baltimore to visit with best friends, Key Largo with family, Arizona for work….I’m very blessed.
This summer continues to be one of the best, along with the hardest. I got to use and experience my father in law’s Jacksonville Fishing Charter boat for a month and boy did I use it! I have not had a summer home in possibly 2 years and I took advantage every Friday. Every weekend (starting Friday) I took that boat out and I couldn’t have been happier! Being outside made me so happy. Before this, my laziness was engulfing me and as nice as it was to be a vegetable within the house it wasn’t healthy. Every boating trip included some amazing company but Hannah & Marle were my favorites! Spending a weekend in St. Augustine was epic awesome for Charlotte’s birthday! I got to take the dogs camping and hiking!
I’ve seen some incredible broadway shows and comedians (Marry Poppins, Chicago, Dracula, and Cedric the Entertainer).
At the beginning of the year I had a great cruise with family and an awesome bachelor party to Key West! I also had a great Muddy Buddy Race! And helped celebrate my niece’s first birthday! I ran my first marathon! My parents sold their house and finally moved and retired to Miami!
This year also included the celebration of lots of 30th birthdays!! Shawn, Celly, Layne, Mandy, Cyndi, Earl, Gavin, Liana, etc. etc. etc. etc.
Lots of babies being born, Anderson, Ben, Charles, Mailande, Julian Danger, Bennett, etc. etc. etc
As I continue to better myself and figure out what makes me tick, helping others, making them smile and being creative but more importantly; less computer, being outside more…with Hannah…and friends, read more…outside with Hannah, Saturday morning breakfast/brunch…outside with Hannah…and friends. Genuinely spend more time with some amazing influences in my life. Getting out more with the right people makes for great memories!
I can’t thank the people in my life enough, you’re all FREAKING AMAZING! I sincerely care about you all…
Despite the downs, I’ve enjoyed talking with so many I have not had a chance to. I turned 30 on the 27th of July, it was a pretty heavy week and one I’ll never forget. That week I realized how quickly things can change and how quickly one has grown up. I won’t get into the details but for the first time, I felt more mature than I have before. For the first time, I realized how immature I was just a few years ago. It was a sad realization but also a good one. I realize how important the small things one enjoys, it is what keeps you sane. These are the things that require some work, but are worth the sacrifice and time and energy, and create the memories that are more important than anything else in the world.
Life is about memories, that’s more important than anything else (more important than working, having stuff, etc). Create those wonderful memories with those beautiful people in your life. That’s what’s priceless… and that’s what I’ve learned this year…..
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year,
Love always,
Jesus “Zeus” Salgueiro