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Relationships are harder than Marathons

Since last year I have been reading many books on finances, breakups, relationships, and minimalism.  This post is about relationships.  It’s about understanding the process of dealing with a breakup properly, understanding people’s needs, and understanding how to have a healthy relationship.  All these things are important to having a long lasting and especially satisfying and rich relationship! For those struggling in relationships therapy is not enough!!  Read, attend seminars, but therapy is NOT ENOUGH!!

Let’s start with breakups.  It doesn’t matter where you are in life.  If you haven’t moved on from past relationships, such as you’re bitter about an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend that’s going to damage your current relationship.  If you haven’t understood who you are in that relationship and what you did or she/he did then forget your current relationship it won’t last.  I’m not saying relive or go back and talk to that person, I mean really try to understand the differences each person had.  Understand the characteristics of that other person.  Come to grips with it all.  I recommend this book for all couples, even if you’re not hung up on past relationships, it’s a great educational tool to understand how to have a healthy break up.

Now for understanding people’s needs, this is key because everyone shows love in one way or another.  For example, I enjoy affection, and I need that.  I show love by giving you things or providing a service like (washing your car, cleaning something for you, picking something up), actually doing something for you that you don’t have to do.  Understanding people’s needs is important.  Understanding men like to conquer problems, and woman just need to talk about them are key aspects.  Understanding these physiological needs are important. I stumbled across a Tony Robbins program called Love & Passion: The Ultimate Relationship, and it blew my mind! If you watch/listen/read to anything it’s this!!!!

Now having a healthy relationship is the tough part, understanding is fine and dandy but actually acting on your knowledge is the key!  It sounds stupid, but do something about it!  Find your motivation in anyway you can.   Be a man and conquer, be a woman and talk!  I’ve read 3 relationship books, Love & Respect, The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriages, and Tony Robbins program called Love & Passion: The Ultimate Relationship that have changed my life.  I don’t care what you read, but find something that speaks to you, find something that motivates you, find something that gets you and your partner on the same page.  It might not be the same book, but it gets your goals aligned.

I touch on all these aspect briefly cause these are the things that come to mind that help me understand, people and relationships.  It may have been too late for me but I hope this changes someone’s life as it has changed my future.