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Relationships are harder than Marathons

Since last year I have been reading many books on finances, breakups, relationships, and minimalism. This post is about relationships. It’s about understanding the process of dealing with a breakup properly, understanding people’s needs, and understanding how to have a healthy relationship. All these things are important to having a long lasting and especially satisfying and rich relationship! For those struggling in relationships therapy is not enough!! Read, attend seminars, but therapy is NOT ENOUGH!!

Let’s start with breakups. It doesn’t matter where you are in life. If you haven’t moved on from past relationships, such as you’re bitter about an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend that’s going to damage your current relationship. If you haven’t understood who you are in that relationship and what you did or she/he did then forget your current relationship it won’t last. I’m not saying relive or go back and talk to that person, I mean really try to understand the differences each person had. Understand the characteristics of that other person. Come to grips with it all. I recommend this book for all couples, even if you’re not hung up on past relationships, it’s a great educational tool to understand how to have a healthy break up.

Now for understanding people’s needs, this is key because everyone shows love in one way or another. For example, I enjoy affection, and I need that. I show love by giving you things or providing a service like (washing your car, cleaning something for you, picking something up), actually doing something for you that you don’t have to do. Understanding people’s needs is important. Understanding men like to conquer problems, and woman just need to talk about them are key aspects. Understanding these physiological needs are important. I stumbled across a Tony Robbins program called Love & Passion: The Ultimate Relationship, and it blew my mind! If you watch/listen/read to anything it’s this!!!!

Now having a healthy relationship is the tough part, understanding is fine and dandy but actually acting on your knowledge is the key! It sounds stupid, but do something about it! Find your motivation in anyway you can. Be a man and conquer, be a woman and talk! I’ve read 3 relationship books, Love & Respect, The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriages, and Tony Robbins program called Love & Passion: The Ultimate Relationship that have changed my life. I don’t care what you read, but find something that speaks to you, find something that motivates you, find something that gets you and your partner on the same page. It might not be the same book, but it gets your goals aligned.

I touch on all these aspect briefly cause these are the things that come to mind that help me understand, people and relationships. It may have been too late for me but I hope this changes someone’s life as it has changed my future.

Written on January 8th, 2012 , Friends & Family, Random News & Thoughts

MuttMattress.com Stylish Modern Custom Dog Beds

Hannah Havana (her former name was Hannah Banana) was my inspiration for a custom modern and stylish dog bed that fit the color scheme of my house. In addition, I wanted a place for her to be able to lay down in the living room with me while I’m watching a movie and a second bed for the bedroom that matched my bedroom colors. So I started MuttMattress.com

Mutt Mattress.com It’s exciting to be selling on etsy.com and even more exciting to have an idea that I’m really passionate about. I have big dreams and aspirations cause that’s how I am but I’m starting simple and small. Either way go check out these beautiful modern handmade dog beds at MuttMattress.com. You can follow us on Twitter/MuttMattress

Eventually we’ll make dog beds that cover pillows (so those old pillows can be reused) and make dog beds out of fabrics you have found that better match your home decor.

So please help me in promoting this exciting venture with this tweet or facebook post: ”Finally, custom and modern dog beds that fit your home decor!!! www.muttmattress.com”

Written on October 4th, 2011 , Friends & Family, Home & Projects, Personal, Random News & Thoughts, The Dogs, Work Tags: corner dog beds, Custom Dog Beds, modern dog beds, muttmattress.com

A Year End Review, An Open Letter to my Friends and Family

This has been one of the best years of my life. (I know weird, but hear…err read me out).

This year really has been amazing, in the past 5 months I’ve gone on 6 different trips with many amazing friends! Some trips were for work and many others for pleasure. Chicago to see Dave Matthews Band, Houston to visit with best friends I grew up with, Denver to see Dave Matthews & Tim Reynolds, Baltimore to visit with best friends, Key Largo with family, Arizona for work….I’m very blessed.

This summer continues to be one of the best, along with the hardest. I got to use and experience my father in law’s Jacksonville Fishing Charter boat for a month and boy did I use it! I have not had a summer home in possibly 2 years and I took advantage every Friday. Every weekend (starting Friday) I took that boat out and I couldn’t have been happier! Being outside made me so happy. Before this, my laziness was engulfing me and as nice as it was to be a vegetable within the house it wasn’t healthy. Every boating trip included some amazing company but Hannah & Marle were my favorites! Spending a weekend in St. Augustine was epic awesome for Charlotte’s birthday! I got to take the dogs camping and hiking!

I’ve seen some incredible broadway shows and comedians (Marry Poppins, Chicago, Dracula, and Cedric the Entertainer).

At the beginning of the year I had a great cruise with family and an awesome bachelor party to Key West! I also had a great Muddy Buddy Race! And helped celebrate my niece’s first birthday! I ran my first marathon! My parents sold their house and finally moved and retired to Miami!

This year also included the celebration of lots of 30th birthdays!! Shawn, Celly, Layne, Mandy, Cyndi, Earl, Gavin, Liana, etc. etc. etc. etc.

Lots of babies being born, Anderson, Ben, Charles, Mailande, Julian Danger, Bennett, etc. etc. etc

As I continue to better myself and figure out what makes me tick, helping others, making them smile and being creative but more importantly; less computer, being outside more…with Hannah…and friends, read more…outside with Hannah, Saturday morning breakfast/brunch…outside with Hannah…and friends. Genuinely spend more time with some amazing influences in my life. Getting out more with the right people makes for great memories!

I can’t thank the people in my life enough, you’re all FREAKING AMAZING! I sincerely care about you all…

Despite the downs, I’ve enjoyed talking with so many I have not had a chance to. I turned 30 on the 27th of July, it was a pretty heavy week and one I’ll never forget. That week I realized how quickly things can change and how quickly one has grown up. I won’t get into the details but for the first time, I felt more mature than I have before. For the first time, I realized how immature I was just a few years ago. It was a sad realization but also a good one. I realize how important the small things one enjoys, it is what keeps you sane. These are the things that require some work, but are worth the sacrifice and time and energy, and create the memories that are more important than anything else in the world.

Life is about memories, that’s more important than anything else (more important than working, having stuff, etc). Create those wonderful memories with those beautiful people in your life. That’s what’s priceless… and that’s what I’ve learned this year…..

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year,

Love always,

Jesus “Zeus” Salgueiro

Written on December 24th, 2010 , Friends & Family, Personal

My parents finally bought a house!

Well, since my parents just sold their house in Jensen beach it was exciting for me to see them buy their next house in Miami. Now I was hoping for a more glorious house, because they deserve it for working so hard these last 29 years, but regardless my parents bought their new house cash which alone is very inspiring. It was definitely a huge fixer upper, but a great investment in a great area. It’s been fun to hear their stories about seeing the house transform into a great livable space. The house they bought was a foreclosure short sale dump that everything was ripped out of the house and stopped being taken care of. I couldn’t believe how easy the transformation was and how great my parents handled it all. I unfortunately don’t have any photos but hope to take some real soon. I also hope they get to start really enjoying the retired life they deserve. In addition to eating right and staying as healthy as possible. I hope one day they get to see some grand kids, even if it is seeing Taylor some more.

Written on April 18th, 2010 , Friends & Family, Home & Projects

New Years Eve in Vegas 2008-2009

I’ve had this post written, but not edited till recently. Sorry for the delay?

This year we went to Vegas for New Years 2009, I might sound like we go somewhere every year for New Years, but that’s not the case….anymore. We might start a tradition to go some place every New Years.

New Years Eve in Vegas was not what we expected and hoped. Staying at Planet Hollywood(PH) formerly the Aladdin the road between PH and Paris was being setup for Robbie Maddison’s Jump on to and off the Arc de Triumph. We never actually saw this happen, but instead went to a nice dinner at Bally’s (2 hotels down) at around 8pm. Walking to Bally’s was difficult because the jump was set to go off at 9pm, but of course didn’t go off till just after 10:30pm. The streets were pretty crowded at this point and walking to Bally’s was a bitch! You can see the jump below.

After dinner around 11:30pm we went back towards our hotel. The crowd was even more insane and getting through it got pretty dangerous with my 70+ year old parents. I was pretty concerned but remained calm and assertive. We were all locked holding hands and my poor 5′ 2″ mother holding Mandy’s hand through the crowd was pretty nerve wrecking. Once we got to a ‘safe’ less crowded area we waited for midnight to hit, to watch all the amazing fireworks from the strip. Little did we know that the fireworks were not shot off the roofs of hotels because of fire hazards and now shot off parking garages, and because of Vegas’ beautiful tall building we didn’t see shit for fireworks! We were all extremely disappointed and should have done better research or gone to the Palms and paid a lot of money to watch the fireworks from one of their clubs at the top of the hotel. We decided after our disappointment to go back to our hotel room and drink it off. That was a much better idea and much more fun. Walking back to our room got even more dangerous because people were ready to leave the crowd and go wherever. People started pushing and I never expected to get squished like I did to some stranger. It was absolutely insane how nasty people got. Maybe since I’m older I expected more respect, but people’s drunkenness made for some dangerous situations. I remember going to Mardi Gras and we did the hold everyone’s hand and don’t let go, and I know why we did that here. I also remember Critchet going to NYC for New Year’s Eve and telling me the same thing. Going to one of those big cities for New Years Eve can get dangerous fast. Especially with alcohol involved. It was a night to remember and never forget. Next year we’re gonna be on some private beach where no one’s around, obnoxiously drunk (except us) and being disrespectful. I should have expected this, but we definitely had a different mind set.

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Written on February 27th, 2009 , Friends & Family, Vacation & Travel, Video Tags: New Years Eve in Vegas

Mandy Running the Disney Marathon and Our Funny Marthon Signs

Well for the past 6 months Mandy has been waking up between 4:30am and 6:30am to run from 3-22 miles, a training schedule she was provided by the Burnam Institute. This is the group that she raised over $2,500 which is dedicated to revealing the fundamental molecular causes of disease and devising the innovative therapies of tomorrow. Total they raised over $125,000 for medical research and awareness!!

Over the course of 6 months, I have watched and supported her run the Nona 5k, OUC Half, Jacksonville Half and now the Disney Marathon. I have a whole new respect for the running culture and the dedication involved. Luckily she had an amazing and dedicated running partner Jennifer Thompson. Jennifer motivated Mandy and Mandy motivated her, they are a strong team and both first time marathon runners!

So, this weekend was the Disney Marathon and I wanted to tell you a little about my side of this Sunday’s experience. I’ve already told you about details from other races. Sunday was the big race, and Mandy had been staying with Team Burnam since Friday over in the Disney Area. I had the house to myself to prepare for whatever came, with Saturday cleaning the house top to bottom; bathrooms, vacuuming, mopping, cleaning the kitchen, unloading dishwasher, cleaning dog slobber from windows AND washing the dogs, vacuuming and washing two cars by hand, taking down Christmas decorations, grocery shopping, and buying lots of flowers for Mandy’s homecoming! It was a hell of a day with little sleep the night before. That Saturday I also went to the Office Max to buy some poster boards for funny signs for the race. I didn’t want Mandy to come home to a messy house not that she would have cared because of how tired she was.

Race day came and I was up by 5:15am. Not as early as Gavin and Dawn whom watched the runners take off, which I’m sure is really awe inspiring. I picked up David (Jennifer’s husband) at his house and we were on Disney property by 6:20am. We were fairly prepared packed with our signs, towels and water for the girls, Publix chicken wings as a snack, cameras, and a map.

The shotgun was at 5:50am and they left in three large groups. There were over 21,000 runners and first place was Brazilian Adriano Bastos finishing in 2:20:38. Mandy and Jenn were in the third group and were quite frustrated at the slow place of the start. I was told most people were walking because it was so congested. They first entered into Epcot and looped around back out of the park to mile 4. Dave and I were shooting to meet them at mile 4 but were concerned when we had to park at the Transportation and Ticket Center and take the monorail to Epcot. After arriving at Epcot and seeing the mobs of people we decided to skip mile 4 and wait for the girls at mile 9 back at Transportation and Ticket Center. We still debate if we could have seen them at mile 4, but the number of people was overwhelming and we wanted to be sure we saw them at mile 9. Ironically Jenn had her cell phone on her and as we were driving up she was on the phone with Dave (this was where she was walking at the beginning). We were able to communicate easily with her via text messages and that made things so much better!! We were also tracking the girls based on what they have run in the past, and via a text messaging service Disney was providing that was tracked via their ChampionChip (although the text was delayed about 10-20 minutes, but it helped us judge mile average.

Our first text was directly form Jenn saying she was passing mile 6. We patiently waited at mile 9, setup camp on the less crowded side and started holding our signs, supporting all the other runners passing by and getting lots of laughs and comments. Here we saw the first pace setter setting a 5 hour pace, then the 5:30 pace (this will be important later). So Dave’s first sign is the one pictured below, we got a few comments like, “Aww that’s not nice,” and “Can I buy the medal off you?”